It’s been over a week since my last post; its been too long, I know. However it has been much needed I was reading a post over on Quirky Workin’ Mom’s about putting yourself in timeout from the world of social media and other toxic areas in your life. Taking a timeout and giving yourself a time to relax, reboot, & get things done! I wanted to just take a few days off to begin with but then another day got added then another, it was quite nice to take that time off! I was able to have family time with my husband who was off work for the last couple of weeks due to switching to a new job, which he started on Monday. I spent more time with my boys even though they were never in one place for more than a couple of minutes, enjoyed me giving a little extra time to them anyways. And finally I found time for myself! After weeks of rolling through this season of sickness, stress, anxiety, & all the rest of 2020 I needed some sort of me time. It should have been a no brainer to start taking care of me but when you are a mom who takes care of kids, the house, most of the bills, the car, the cooking, the cleaning, remembering trash day, taking kids to school or doctors appointments (most online), making sure the animals get fed/watered, and so much more it can be so easy to forget to take care of well YOU! To combat the sort of funk I have fallen into I have started a new diet that really is more of a healthier eating style controlling portion sizes and replacing a lot of unhealthy choices with better ones. When the days are nicer I opt to walk to the bus stop to pick up my oldest rather than take the car & even get in some extra walking before sometimes if its a really nice day. I usually will have my almost 9 month old with me so weather needs to be baby friendly to go for a walk outside. If a walk outside isn’t possible that day I will do my best to get inside chores done; cleaning the house mostly. Getting up and moving around helps out a lot with moods and how you are feeling. I think that a lot of people have been in a funk lately with COVID and just 2020 in general. Giving myself time to get more things done and also take a break has been a nice change to my normal day of chaos. I will admit I have been so used to not posting it would have been easier to continue that but I enjoy writing too much to give it up so soon! I will also admit I have been battling against the faceless enemy of anxiety & depression that come to visit me from time to time. Taking time for myself has also been a great way to help with those feelings as well. I guess the moral of the story I am writing to you about is that every person at some point needs to give themselves time that is reserved just for them and them ONLY! If you are always taking time for everyone else in your life giving your self and time to person after person you are going to get worn out physically & mentally. You need to STOP and smell the roses or rather take that deep breath and evaluate what it is that you need instead of what everyone else is needing. You may not be able to take a whole lot of time but a little bit of time for yourself goes a long way! It gives you a chance to relax and unwind. You just need to figure out what YOU time looks like for you & your needs! There’s still going to be time for all of the others in your life who need you but only if you give yourself a break once in a while! Don’t be afraid to pamper yourself a little more and find that special time for you and YOU only!
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Anxiety is nothing new by far. It just lingers around waiting for its moment to shine. It hangs over my head for its chance to jump in and take hold of my life. It has many faces, none of which are the same as the other. Ironically it wears different masks hiding its true identity. Lately I like many others have experienced anxiety. Where does anxiety lurk and hide? Well it is practically invisible and attacks when least expected. For me my anxiety it sneaks up when I am trying to get to sleep and feel nothing but worry about my infant child at night especially or worry about things that are not likely to happen but what if always hangs stalling. I used to be able to just go to sleep so easily and never really had this much of an issue with insomnia until now. My anxiety is an old friend who I thought I had left behind in this race of life of what ending is unknown.
Anxiety is not discriminatory it doesn’t care who you are or where you come from it happens to everyone even if you don’t meet face to face. Anxiety has many friends that often tag along to join in on the fun that it has with all of the emotions that a person gives out into the world. Some days I feel like I am on display for all of these different types of anxiety to pick on and have at. A free for all and it tries on all of its different masks on me. Trying to find the best fit. I feel helpless and stuck.
Who are anxiety’s friends, have I met them?
I am no stranger to those groupies who follow anxiety wherever it may go. They revel in the spot light and will make sure to fill in the gaps of a person’s emotions to better fit there agendas. Anxiety often travels with depression, stress, suicidal thoughts, the feelings of feeling less than, worry, panic, anger, and sadness. Most of which I have experienced first hand and don’t wish those feeling upon anyone. If you do find yourself masked with anxiety or one of its many other masks know that you are not alone. Alone is what they intend to make you feel like they want to self isolate you so that you feel like nothing can make things better and that you will just be stuck forever. When a person is alone it makes the process of cutting that person down and making them feel less than until they actually believe it in their own minds a reality. Anxiety and it’s other masked friends brainwash you they set in worry little by little creating a fear that paralyzes a person it beats that person down to a new level where they feel a variety of feelings all meant to cause a person to feel like they are not themselves and are losing their minds little by little until they do.
What does anxiety look like?
Anxiety and it’s cloaked friends live in the shadows of our minds and only come out to play with our emotions when they see fit. We all have a different way to show that we are going through anxiety or it’s other cloaked friends the infection isn’t always going to look the same for all the different types of people in the world. My anxiety, depression, worry, fear, less than feelings, & stress are different than yours. My anxiety makes it hard for me to sleep but other times I may have a hard time enjoying the stuff I want to enjoy like time for myself. Depression for me is silent usually I don’t cause a ruckus and there is no kicking and screaming it just eats away at me in silent lunges. I get beaten down in my mind and as the sadness takes over the tears pool into a puddle inside and out I feel worthless but no one would know it as I always put on that smile. A half cranked smile forced and at the ready to put on a show for the world because they don’t need to feel what I feel. I am too stubborn I don’t need any help out of this place I’m trapped in it’s not so bad once you get used to it. My feelings aren’t worth being cared about by anyone else but me they are after all my burdens to bare. They weigh me down and as I feel chained down to the ground hunching me over breaking my strength little by little I somehow must still stand tall as if nothing has changed because my pain is invisible. To the outside world it doesn’t exist. To me it exists they all exist they all wear their different masks. Stress lately has had me stretched out to the limit I can feel it’s toll that it has taken on my body. Reminds me of the medieval times the torture devices that stretch the body to its literal breaking point is how I feel sometimes with my stress. The feeling of less than will set in next as if the anxious worry and fear wasn’t enough nor was the depression induced sadness. Then put some stress on the woman… surely that’s enough right? Wrong because anxiety has many faces and so does the rest!
How can you make it better? Is it even possible to feel normal again?
Even though most days feel never ending and that the mask i am wearing the mask that has auctioned itself to me is never coming off it somehow does. Anxiety and all that follows it have that end goal of isolation to make their victims feel alone; I aim to make sure I am not alone even if most of the time I am not physically alone. I have to make sure that I talk to someone anyone who will listen. Talking helps so much more than your mind will let you think that it does. You have to push yourself to escape that box you are in even if it doesn’t seem possible. All that the cloaked box holds is sadness and loneliness. It is a lie. If you let it control you with out fighting you might end up in a real life or death type of situation that can be fatal for you or even others who try to intervene at that point. I’m not saying it is easy because it is far from easy you are literally fighting yourself. Your mind, to be more specific . You are fighting a brain that thinks and plots and twists everything in order to win then on top of that you are attempting to win using can you take a guess what you are using? Your brain! The same one you are fighting against to win what seems to be an unbeatable enemy. It’s okay to ask for help because it is hard but doable. Ask for help, talk to someone! People may not talk to you because they cannot see what is happening to you the feeling you are feeling is invisible on the outside sometimes. When I feel like I am sliding down into a place where I don’t think it is possible to get back out of I know I need to talk to someone I need to get it all out and expel those emotions. I have gotten down to my breaking point to the actual point where I break, what happened? I sank and just kept sinking down further from the surface and that’s exactly what it felt like. It felt like drowning in my mind; eating wasn’t important at that point, talking wasn’t necessary, doing anything was pointless, because why was it worth it. How did I escape my waterless prison in the depths of my mind? I made a choice that I could either die at some point what would have been a horrible way to go, I could be sent to some sort of mental institution and live what was left of my life I gave up on, or I could fight back little by little and piece myself back together. I chose to try again because I believed that there was more to my life that I needed to experience still. Now I’m here sharing it with you. I make it a point not to get to that point ever again; I push myself and reach out to someone anyone who will listen.
Don’t let those masks those cloaked downers get ahold of you forever. They will come and eventually go if you continue to fight back!
There’s nothing I loved more than exploring the kitchen as a kid. I loved mixing different combinations of foods together making new recipes up along the way. I ended up becoming the cook in the house for my family growing up they loved all the different things I made up and it was great for my parents because they didn’t have to cook all the time. Now that I have my own kids I want them to have the ability to explore the kitchen the way that I did. I want them to have those life skills that they enjoy rather than feeling pressure to learn it at a later time in their lives. If they can learn it now as kids maybe they will learn to enjoy cooking and possibly find a passion for it.
I have been given a unique opportunity to do an review/unboxing for Raddish Kids. They send out monthly cooking boxes directed towards kids so that they can learn about cooking, food safety, & kitchen safety all in one box. These neat little kits can be done with a parent for younger children or some supervision for older ones who are already pretty comfortable in the kitchen. I love that such a box service like this one exists. As a woman who grew up in a time where these sorts of things didn’t exist I am thankful that they do now for my kids and for other kids & generations to come!
I want to refresh your memories about what or rather who Raddish Kids are and what they do as a company just a little bit better. I wrote up a post on the all about Raddish Kids Box a couple of weeks ago but I am sure like my self when I read something eventually I need a refresher on what I read eventually with time.
Raddish Kids is a monthly cooking club for kids ages 4-14+ that teaches about cooking food, food safety, & kitchen safety. It brings the education of learning about food and how to cook it as well as the fun of making new recipes home. When your kids learn with Raddish Kids they will develop new skills and make fun memories in the process.
How to get started?
Raddish Kids offer a 3 payment plans to help you pick the right one for your family. For a month to month plan prices start at $24 per box. Next there’s the 6 month plan where you pay for 6 months up front and the price per box for that plan is $22 saving you a bit of money compared to the month to month plan. Finally if you would rather pay yearly your price per box would be $20 per box per month up front for the year. On top of those great prices you are able to add up to 3 extras per sibling on to each plan. This is great for families with multiple kids so nobody feels left out! Lastly you can even ad in an apron to your first box for the special patch that is included in each monthly box. This is a great way to remember what your kids learned with each box in a fun way!
What is included in each box?
Inside each box/kit:
There are 3 recipe cards that happen to be laminated just in case things get messy. On top of that feature the recipe cards include fun skills to learn in the kitchen as well as the ingredients and the step by step instructions with pictures for the recipes being made.
A Kitchen Tool, every box includes its own unique kitchen tool that is necessary for making the recipes in that months box. Each kit helps build up your kitchen tools but at the same time teaches your kid(s) how to use them properly.
A Creative Kitchen Project, each kit includes a hands on craft, experiment, or food game for family fun!
Monthly Collectibles, that include conversation cards about food or kitchen talk and a fun apron patch to remember what you learned month to month.
Grocery Lists for all of the ingredients that will be needed to make all of these amazing recipes of course.
I was given a box from Raddish Kids to give a review over there cooking kit. As with all of my reviews I give my honest opinions that are my own. I want to bring my readers great family products and anything that I give a recommendation for I want to make sure I would use them for my own family first rather than just saying hey go an try it out. Which brings me to this review; so let’s get started.
This box has a lot of different parts to it and I think that it makes it very unique. I will start by unboxing it and then going through each recipe inside. Finally I will show you the recipes in real life as I have made. In the the end I will give a full and honest opinion over this entire box and the recipes that were made. I will base my review on quite a few things including: the packaging, how the contents fit together, & how easy everything is to understand (recipes, games, & projects ect).
3 Recipe Cards
Creative Kitchen Project
Lesson Plan for Spooky Kitchen
Spotify Playlist for Spooky Kitchen
Rad Family Dinners
Rad Family Dinners: October- Spooky Suppers
Recipe Time: Boo-nana Bread
Out of the three recipes in the box I let my son choose which one he wanted to do. He chose the Boo-nana Bread and so that is what we made below. I opted not to make all three for this unboxing because since this is a past box that can still be purchased I didn’t want to reveal too much. If you are curious about this recipe as well as the others and want to try this box out for yourselves it can be found HERE. Below is the ingredients we needed. Which were: Sugar, Baking Soda, Baking Powder, Vanilla, Cinnamon, Salt, Very Ripe Bananas (we had Ripe Enough Bananas), Flour, Butter, & Eggs. This recipe was one that used the special tool that came with this box, if you guess potato masher or masher you guessed correct. My middle son is the one who helped make this recipe he is four and even though he needed some reminders here and there due to him being four he could pretty easily follow the directions given. I think his favorite parts of making it was the mashing of the bananas & the mashing. Then the eating part was after it was made which is pretty much the best part over all! We were going to make muffins but ended up changing our minds because he wanted it as close to the picture as possible. (Note: I was the one who did the oven cooking parts; he knows that ovens are only for adults. He is 4 after all.)
On each card there are the ingredients and kitchen utensils/items needed for each recipe; the directions in picture form for making each recipe; and some fun tips/tricks in both reading comprehension & science about the kitchen or recipe card being used. Those were more for older kids and will be great for my 6 year old to learn about when he gets back from his weekend at the grandparents house!
One last picture I wanted to add in was our clean up time where he is cleaning the recipe card off with a Clorox wipe (he wore safety gloves); the cards are laminated and water proof which means when they get messy they can be easily cleaned up for future uses. Having younger kids usually means there are going to be messes especially in the kitchen!
What He thought:
“Nanna Bread”, “Made recipe with smasher, Yep. Now can have nanna bread?”
As quoted by a 4 year old.
What I Thought?
The first impression of this box upon opening it is that it is very well put together and that a lot of thought went into the box it’s self and all of the packaging as well. The packaging is a very nice quality and I love that they use a variety of colors to make the activities & recipes pop out rather than just using words.
Which brings me to the recipe cards; on each individual recipe card they have the ingredients all printed out on the card in picture form and the instructions are in picture form as well. On top of that all of the cards front, back, & everywhere in between is laminated, meaning that you can get banana bread batter on them for instance and they will wipe clean and they will be able to be reused no problem for future use!
There is just so much information packed into this little box kit not including the “Bonus Bites” section online where you can find a bunch of extra’s for the current and past monthly boxes. There are even dietary substitutions for each box.
I was curious if I could find the dietary substitutions for the Boo-nana Bread recipe so I went to their site Raddish Kids, then I found the Bonus Bites section at the top and clicked on it, next I found a search bar on the Bonus Bite’s page and typed in Boo-nana Bread as sure enough the Dietary Substitution/Restrictions popped up.
Even though we didn’t need to use the substitutions for this recipe the fact that we could if we needed to is great. I love that I can go back in the future and find the substitutions for it is great too because as a person who does have some allergies to certain foods I know that they can just pop up for really anyone or kids who are still growing.
Like I mentioned above I made this Boo-nana Bread Recipe with the help of a 4 year old; who still needed some reminders while making it but it was simple enough for him to be able to follow directions in making it. He naturally gets distracted so there’s that. I think that him being able to see the directions in the picture format was a huge helper for him. He cannot read yet so being able to see what the recipe needed and when the ingredient was supposed to go into the bowl was a very nice feature that I think a lot of recipes could use because it makes teaching kids to cook a lot easier this way. I thought that it was very cool of them to print it all in color as well so that kids like my 4 year old can tell what was needed by the color of the item in the picture not just what the picture looks like in general.
All in all I felt like everything was pretty easy to understand most of it was even easy for my 4 year old with help of course for him to grasp onto and understand especially with the help of the pictures included on the recipe cards. I feel that if he can understand by use of the pictures with some help that my older 6 almost 7 year old would be able to understand not only the recipe cards but the games that came with this box as well. However since he was not home for that part we skipped it for now but will do that part with him when he returns home from the grandparents house. The little game in this box was a word game where you create a little story using fun words that is inserted into the sentence as it is read. There was also a fun little crossword but that is something that kind of flies above both of my kids heads but could be something for an older kid or adult to do.
The box has a bunch of different fun recipes & fun exercises/things to learn. It has a lot of neat and fun things to do in general. I love that the box can be done with as much help or as little help that is needed depending on the age range of child/children working on the box. As well as fun things to do inside the box/kit I love that each month brings extras todo along side all of the other things. You simply go to the Raddish Kids website to their Bonus Bites page and look up what ever box you are on in the search bar. The bonus content for that box will pop up and then you have a whole other fun list of recipes, songs, & activities to do alongside or after you get through all of what was included inside the main box.
In my conclusion I honestly love this box and think that the price is spot on. When you break down all of what is included inside the actual box and then factor in what you get in extras this is well worth it. I will be back as a future customer for sure. I loved being able to do these fun recipes with my kiddos and would love to continue to make some fun recipes from this company with them again. Definitely excited to grow our recipe collection a bit more as well!
Thanks for checking out my review over Raddish Kids, the box I reviewed was “Spooky Kitchen” if you wanted to get it for yourself. I have enjoyed working with this company and love the product that they offer. I am always on the lookout for fun family products for my family as well as products that I can share with you!
Quick Note: Thought I would include this tid bit of information that I copied directly from their FAQ page. I know I have readers from other countries other than the USA so I wanted to make sure I included this information in this post. Just in case this speaks to you!
“When do you ship? Do you ship internationally?
Your first kit will ship via USPS within 1-3 business days unless otherwise selected during checkout.
Orders placed by the 20th of the month will receive that month’s kit. Orders placed on the 21st and after will receive the next month’s kit.
Subsequent kits will have an expected arrival date of between the 5th and 10th of each month.
Outside of the United States, International shipping is available for an additional $7 USD/month shipping fee. We ship to the following countries: Australia, Austria, Belgium, Canada, Croatia, Denmark, Estonia, Finland, France, Germany, Hungary, Iceland, Italy, Latvia, Lithuania, Luxembourg, Malta, Netherlands, New Zealand, Norway, Poland, Portugal, Singapore, Slovak Republic (Slovakia), Slovenia, Spain, Switzerland, United Kingdom
Please allow 3 to 5 business days after shipment for U.S. delivery and 14 business days for international shipping. International delays are possible due to customs. If you do not receive your kit within 3 weeks of receiving the tracking email, please contact our customer service team.“
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Around where I live here in Iowa Fall is in full swing. The leaves are falling to the ground and that winter chill is not far off as things begin to cool down. Even though 2020 has added to the usual sickness that you normally go through during Fall in Iowa sickness is sickness its all icky! I wanted to share some tips I use for myself and my family during those icky sick days & nights. This past week and part of last I have been dealing with sick kids and a teething cranky baby. How have I been able to manage?
I am a mom who fully believes in using whatever over the counter medications will work but when the usual Motrin or Tylenol isn’t quite cutting out the fever I need to intervene because sometimes they can’t handle those high fevers by themselves. One big way I help keep those pesky fevers at bay is to run a warm bath or shower depending on the kid or myself. It is important to not shock the body with a cold bath or shower and of course you don’t want to burn anybody with a super hot one so I keep it in the middle with a nice lukewarm to warm bath/shower. And when I can’t get my littles to get in a tub or if they are super HOT I will use the same water warmth and wet their hair instead! When their hair is wet it will help cool the rest of the body down as it cools down. No matter which way I cool them off I make sure to wrap them in a warm blanket or blankets to keep them from catching a chill!
Once I have the fever in check I need to soothe those little noses and throats and in my opinion there is nothing better than using a chest rub to help soothe a cough or stuffy/runny nose. Our favorite brand is Vicks Vaporub but I have used other brands when I just needed something! I will slather my kids and myself up; typically on the chest and back but I will sometimes coat the necks and bottoms of the feet (they need socks on afterwards). The vapor soothes the coughs and helps either open up the nasal passages so we can breathe better or just helps soothe our noses from all the runny noses.
Anytime sickness hits our house I always have a pot of some sort of brothy soup on the stove top. I love a good chicken noodle soup homemade when possible but canned is great too! The warm/hot liquid helps soothe sore throats and helps with clearing up nasal passages as well. It always makes the day so much more better and for just a bit you forget that you are sick; at least I do. In our house I am usually making a homemade soup; I fill a stock pot with water and some sort of protein surrounded with cut up vegetables and I bring that all to a boil. I then put it on a medium/low simmer for a few hours or until my protein is fully cooked through. Next depending on the type of protein I will either strain everything out if there are bones in it then add it back to the pot with out the bones. This step usually includes sorting out the meat from the bones then putting the meat and veggies back into the pot but if there were no bones I do not have to strain anything. I will then add in what ever spices and pasta if any into my broth and bring back to a boil until the pasta is cooked through and veggies should be tender. This is always a family favorite and super easy to make!
Soups or other warm/hot beverages are a great way to warm up and feel better when you are sick but another great way my family and I kick sickness to the curb is by enjoying something cold. It is not usually encouraged to have dairy or at least a lot of dairy when you are sick but sometimes depending on the type of sickness we enjoy the occasional cold treat. Usually its a nice bowl of ice cream but we also dabble in ice pops especially those that are made up of fruit by Outshine, Pineapple is my favorite. The extra vitamin C is an added bonus. We love our ice pops or ice cream in moderation. We have found that they help sore throats the most and sometimes after feeling awful for so long it is nice to have something to help pick up your spirits with a little joy!
Last but not least because it is number one, even though these weren’t in any particular order but this one should always be number one; WATER! Good old fashioned h2o is the number one way to kick any sickness to the curb. We enjoy drinking water to help keep us hydrated which helps loosen flehm and if its cold enough it helps the throat. I have found that sipping water helps settle my stomach when it is upset and it also helps me stop coughing or at least it helps the cough not be so bad. Water should be on everyone’s list in my opinion even if it is flavored because we all need water to live so there’s that!
Thanks for reading hope you find that these 5 tips for kicking sickness to the curb help you out in some way! Feel free to share with anyone who it may help as well.
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If anyone has ever raised boys or just brave adventurous children it is quite common for those children to develop a sense of invincibility. Most of the time they are dare devils who will seek out the thrill that a lot of people tend to stray away from. My middle son is my little dare devil. He has no fear and that is good to some degree, but there is a limit that this mom has for danger. My boy has a knack for climbing what ever he can find worth climbing, jumping from tall heights off of furniture around the house or outside playground equipment, he is not afraid of much and even if he is afraid he soon conquers his fears. Although seemingly fearless there are those creepy crawlies that he fears but of all of the creepy slithery things he loves playing with snakes! The only snakes on our Iowa property have been harmless garter snakes the kind that eat worms, frogs, mice or bird eggs so I am not worried that they are dangerous to him. However a snake is a snake and I don’t want my 4 year old playing with snakes! However boys will be boys. Earlier today similar to another time this boy comes running inside the house from playing outside in our fenced in back yard. He comes running inside and boy did he have a story to tell! I can always tell its a doozy of a story because he starts by saying “So! Let me tell you about it!” It being the thing he comes running excitedly inside about. He tells me that he put a snake in a bucket and that I need to come see it, Now! I let him out side for about 10 minutes and he could only be outside with our family dog because that dog is an alarm and will sound off when anyone walks past any part of our house. Anyways we walk out expecting to see a live snake but I would have to say how proud I was when he informed me that it was dead because the dog killed it. Why am I proud? Well because the last time his story involved a snake he was holding that live slithering thing in his hands! Slinging it around the yard chasing his less enthused older brother. He is quite the adventurous boy possibly too adventurous at times!
Have you had a similar experience? Any fun stories?
I am not terrified of snakes otherwise I might have fainted. I tend to toss them over our fence weekly due to our dog hunting them then ending their slithering lives. He is a terrier and I love that we have our little hunter at times but there are just so many snakes to be had; I wish there weren’t so many sometimes. I can only imagine the neighbors watching me from their windows tossing snakes over the fence (not toward them of course), what crosses their minds?
I hope to share many other fun stories about our life raising wild boys and other fun family stories that cross our paths in our life adventure! Thanks for reading, drop a like below, & follow my blog! Stay tuned in for more posts coming soon.
Being able to see the world from someone else’s perspective is something we as people cannot even begin to imagine until we are given the opportunity to do so by seeing it ourselves or even by reading it with our own eyes. When you wake up in the morning and gather yourself its always going to be different from what someone else will do. It can never be the exact same experience as another.
A single day for me is a whole lot different now than what it was a year ago and I am sure it can be different for others as well as our lives are always changing from day to day. As a person who used to have a job to go to work at everyday who now does a different form of work by staying home as a stay at home parent kind of changed my perspective. I no longer have that rush of going to an actual work building sure, however it is kind of the same in some ways. Even though I don’t leave my home or even log in to a computer for a stay at home job I still am doing a job; and at times it is a tough job to do.
5 Things That People Should Know About Being a Stay at Home Parent
It may not be a traditional job where you clock in and out but it is a job; a hard one at that. I know we’ve all heard it before staying at home as a stay at home parent is a job too but sometimes I feel like it is taken too lightly because it’s just as hard but in different ways. Last year I worked in a kitchen at a school and before that I worked in a hospital cleaning and doing laundry. I have worked many other hard working jobs before those as well and when I compare them all to staying at home with my own kids here’s how it comes out. * Both require my full undivided attention. * Both will wear you out and then some. * Stay at home parents are doing a natural job that usually never ends unless they are given a break occasionally. At most jobs you eventually go home for a break but not for all of them. * Although unlikely the shit will literally attempt to hit the fan while at home at times especially those of us with small children… and fans! If this happens at a work place I would look for a new job unless you are in that business of course!
Stay at home parents get the opportunity of being a jack of all trades even if they didn’t plan on it. Staying at home more has allowed me to just expand this ability because being a parent in general gave me all sorts of tasks to accomplish kind of making me and expert at some of the jobs the world has to offer. I am an on call doctor at times; a personal chef always; most days I am a teacher of all sorts of things; & sometimes I even get to try out being an actress… not that I am the greatest or anything. I have worked in all sorts of jobs but none can ever prepare you for a single day at the amusement park of a stay at home parent. There is always something unexpected good and bad.
It’s a given that a stay at home parent is well home pretty much all of the time and that is just a reward on its own even if it doesn’t feel like it some days. Being able to be home more with your kids gives you that bond or the ability to create a special bond with your kids that you would have otherwise missed. As a mother to three wonderful little boys who are always rambunctious, wild, & sweet it can be hard to grab a moment with each of them on their own well that is if I were working outside the home and really more time with the older boys as I am constantly with the baby most of the time. Before I found that I was feeling disconnected from them at times because of school and work. When we all got home there was a short amount of time together before bed as everyone was wore out most days. Then of course there was the weekends but they didn’t want to spend those at home because they missed going to the grandparents houses so then they weren’t home that much then either. Now that I am home these days I have been able to connect more with them and find that I have more energy when my oldest comes home from school in the afternoons and feel much less sluggish or tired. I have been able to spend more one on one time with both of the older boys and the baby of course. I am loving this so much!
Being at home more does have its wonders and rewards but sometimes it brings in other feelings relating to stress and sadness. Feelings of hopelessness and sadness are not going to skip over people because of professions or who that person is. It doesn’t matter who you are because things like stress and depression happen to everyone. Here’s the thing you shouldn’t feel any shame in it either! While these feelings can hit anyone at anytime they will effect people who are closed off from other people or who spend a lot of time alone. I know this because I have suffered from a lot of dealings with depression and stress. The depressive feelings tend to happen more when I am not really in contact with other people besides my kids or husband I believe this is because people need to have connections with other people. Even if you are not in a person to person conversation with another person out side of your home and it is just typing on the computer that conversation alone can help out someone dealing with depressive feelings a lot. It can be very easy for someone who is at home as a stay at home parent to close themselves off or even just feel closed off from the rest of the world. This can mess with your mind a bunch and just imagine only being able to have conversations with children for most of your days and possibly yourself. I am lucky enough to be able to get on my computer or my phone and talk to people so that this doesn’t happen to me as much. There are people that don’t have this kind of luxury even if that seems strange and I also count myself lucky to have a husband who is someone who I can talk to because some spouses for others would not do the same. Being home all day long with kids can drive you up a wall believe me and I love those little faces so much but sometimes I just need a break or someone to talk to to help tame those feelings that sometimes creep up. Some days I overcome them with victory and others I do not but even though I fail at overcoming them sometimes I still have some way to connect with someone else. Keep this in your minds before you judge a person who stays home whether they are a stay at home parent or at home for some other reason because the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.
This full time job of staying home all day everyday with our children some of us homeschooling others just home until they can go to school anyways we all work hard and even if we complain a little bit we still do this job. This stay at home gig, job, task; whatever you call it doesn’t pay a darn thing and it never will. We stay home everyday, feed our kids and ourselves everyday, keep up on housework everyday, clean up mess after mess all hours of the day and night, kiss boo boo’s and make little tummies feel better when they don’t feel well at all, we push our bodies to the max and then some more, we stand strong and try our hardest even when it feels like all of our hard work is collapsing around us; this full time job never ends and it may never get easier but we will continue to work this job because without us it just doesn’t work for our families otherwise. It’s what we do.
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You probably have noticed quite a long pause in posts on my blog I believe its been a week maybe longer; I apologize that content came to a sudden halt. My family and I have been dealing with a lot of family issues with one of my sons and came to a not so great conclusion in a huge decision for our family in 2020. Everyone is alive and well, so don’t worry. Not that I owe any sort of explanation but rather that I want to share some of the things we have been going through in hopes that someone out there is going through something similar and maybe it helps them and maybe they can help me by knowing your not alone! My oldest son is 6 years old, he is a great kid and a great brother; but for 6 years he and our family have been battling what feels like a monster that you want to just hide away and never speak of it to anyone. He has behavioral issues and other issues that seem uncontrollable at times for him. It has been having a huge impact on our family as of lately especially me as his mother. We recently decided that for safety concerns due to this virus we would be homeschooling our two older boys at home this school year. It has been going great and I haven’t really had any problems except the occasional temper tantrum but nothing close to everything else that has been going on with our family. And for that I am thankful. I have enjoyed the time I have had teaching them both and really wish I didn’t have to make this hard decision to hopefully help take away some of the stress I have been under outside of school hours. Our 6 year old sees his therapist and a behavioral specialist every week multiple times at that and he is currently in between medications as we are having a hard time finding the one that works for him. We were really hoping that he could live without such things (medication) but it has been complete hell lately and everything we are trying as parents is not working for him. We are currently switching psychiatrists and during our time in this limbo it has been advised to us that he would do better back in a physical school. I am at odds with myself about it; I am terrified to send him to a place we specifically have avoided but when I weigh out the pro’s & con’s of the situation, I have decided that I am more terrified of the person he could become if we are unable to get him under control. I as his mom am angry with myself because I am having the most trouble with him and I cannot do it right or well enough to fix it. It pains me to even consider sending him back to a school building with covid in existence the way it is but when it is weighed out I feel it is worth trying because we have since failed to fix it. In this last week I have had to come to the conclusion that it is not our faults as parents because we are trying to help him, we are doing everything we can do for him, and we are going through it with him. I will not allow myself to feel like crap about this decision because we haven’t given up and we haven’t not tried because we have. This battle that we as parents are facing is scary but I can only imagine what him as a 6 year old is facing. He cannot control himself half of the time and to not know what is causing it to happen or why he is like this must be hard to wrap his mind around. We are braving this monstrous storm together and hopefully we will find some light in the lining of the clouds in our path, even if its just a glimmer of light. In other news I still plan to do homeschooling for my preschooler at home and work with him on preparing for Kindergarten. I would like to continue homeschooling with him and eventually our youngest when he reaches school age as I have really come to enjoy it just as my 4 year old has. In the state of Iowa it is not mandatory to do preschool for homeschooling as the ages seen for schooling requirements doesn’t even start until age 6. Which is first grader age but I would like to try to continue working with him to prepare for his grade ahead. In our situation I can do many things a lot of nonsense worrying and I can pray. I can pray to my Lord & Savior Jesus Christ; that I know he has our family in his hands. That he knows what is best for us. That he has got this! I cannot do anything but pray and do my absolute best to follow guidelines from the schools and just use my commonsense in this situation.
Has anyone else gone through something similar? Any advice?
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Today I thought I would share some great products that have been life savers for our family, literally! (This is not a sponsored post)
1) Our newest little guy was born this past February he was born at 34 weeks gestation and has had pretty mild issues considering being born premature. Like my other two boys he has had quite a lot of trouble with re-flux, well actually a lot! Definitely more than my older boys. He has been on re-flux medications for the past 3 months and for the most part that has been working but sometimes it doesn’t. I am a firm believer in the nasal bulb syringe; I don’t go anywhere with out it. The only issue with the ones you get from the hospital is that they can be very difficult to keep clean and when you think you have got it good you question your self because you cannot see inside…at least I do. After a recommendation from my sons doctor to get one of those nosefrida’s I spent quite a lot of time researching it and reading reviews. I wasn’t convinced that the Frida Baby brand was for us, so I dug deeper. Upon reading reviews about the nosefrida I found a diamond in the rough NeilMed’s Naspira Plus. I read through reviews and took the plunge; I love it! It works great and the tip is smaller so it doesn’t cause as much discomfort for my little guy. It is easier to get the nasal passages clear as well. It has the bulb syringe part that has the removable tube that connects together and best of all they are both see through for easy cleaning. I feel a lot better knowing that I can use it with and without the tube as well so I can use it for his mouth if I need to and his nose. When we were in the NICU one of the scariest times would be when he spit up as he still does at times, some were very bad up through the nose. I will never forget what one of his nurses told me; M then N. Meaning Mouth first then Nose! I encourage you to check it out in the link above. $14.99 at Target.
2) Owlet Smart Sock; This is a more pricier item but I feel is worth every penny. I used this with my middle son as well and definitely gives me a peace of mind with our little one now as well. The sock we have is the second generation sock; the company just released the third generation sock last month. Our second generation has worked great and will continue to work great! This device monitors heart rate and oxygen levels when baby is resting. It will sound an alarm if it is placed incorrectly, if there is not a signal, or if at anytime either the heart rate or oxygen levels are not where they should be. I keep track of it all on my smart phone through and internet connection. It has helped both my husband & I sleep a little better at night. You can buy it new at $299 plus tax and shipping HERE or buy a refurbished device directly from them for $199 plus tax and shipping HERE.
3) Fisher Price Infant to Toddler Rocker; Is another life saver for us. Our little guy uses this more for just sitting in now but when he was much smaller he would spend his supervised naps in this and no judging we used it as a bassinet here and there. It has a base that can make it into a lounger that can be moved from rocker to lounger when needed. As I have mentioned he has really bad re-flux and for a very long time he could not be flat on his back at all without being at an inclined position. This helped up tremendously! Now he uses it more for sitting up in or on days when he needs to be at an incline. $44.99 at Target.
These are my top three favorite baby products! They have saved our little guy more than once and given us a peace of mind! We love these and cannot imagine life without them!
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Upon looking in my fridge I discovered about a 1/4 of a gallon of chocolate milk about to expire tomorrow according to its date. By the smell of it I would say that is pretty spot on! What to do with it, was my impending question. I will bake it into something of course.
Did you know that you can use milk that is past its date or that has spoiled to cook with? The trick is to use it before it gets chunky!
After some thought I settled on Chocolate Muffins but with a twist because I would be using chocolate milk instead of regular milk and I ended up adding some other ingredients in to make it just chocolaty enough without over sugaring them. In our house we try to use everything up the best we can so this was right down our ally.
2 Cups Flour
1 Tbsp. Baking Powder
1/2 tsp. Salt
2 Tbsp. Brown Sugar
1/2 Cup Cocoa Powder
1/2 Cup Oats
1/4 to 1/2 Cup Milk Chocolate Chocolate Chips
1 2/3 Cups Chocolate Milk
1/4 Cup Melted Butter
1 tsp. Vanilla Extract
Preheat oven to 400 Degrees Fahrenheit Grease a 12 count muffin tin with oil. Muffin baking cups are optional. (grease those if your using them)
Combine all dry ingredients together in a medium sized bowl, except chocolate chips.
2. Then add in the vanilla & egg. 3. In a separate bowl mix the melted butter in with the chocolate milk to temper them before adding to the rest of the ingredients. Mix well. 4. Lastly add in the chocolate chips. Stir until incorporated. (Mixture should not be too thick or too loose somewhere in between.)
5. Fill the muffin tins up about 3/4 full each with mixture. (if you have extra just fill them up to top, be careful to not overfill though)
6. Bake in 400 degree oven for 15 minutes (when you poke a tooth pick in it should come out clean with no batter on it)
This recipe allows for the chocolate chips to give it a little extra sweetness through out the muffin. As a mom I don’t want breakfast to be filled with too much sugar so if you like sweet muffins (or really cupcakes…) feel free to up your sugar content a bit more before baking! They are sweet through out with out being overly sweet. My kids enjoyed them! They are the perfect breakfast or quick go to snack that won’t send you into sugar coma.
Teaching your kids is a huge part of raising them. You will always have something to teach them not that they will always want to learn. It will be difficult because raising kids is difficult! My husband and I are currently going through this phase with our 6 year old where he lies. He lies about everything especially when it is something he shouldn’t be doing, naturally. Didn’t we all lie as kids at some point? I know I did. Now dealing with my own child, it feels literally impossible, like no end in site. I wonder what my parents thought when they were dealing with me and my brother during this phase of life? Lying is one of those things that will always be there it isn’t going be cured and done with. Well it’s not if your normal I guess. Here are the facts: he is lying, he disobeys, he is a kid. We know what the problem is; now we have to figure out how to get him to understand a few things. He needs to know: what lying is, why it is bad, what the consequences are, what he should do instead of lying, & that we still love him even when he does it again. One big thing that we have made a priority in raising our boys is that they need to know that there are going to be consequences for there actions. They need to know right from wrong. It is our duty as parents to teach them these things because they don’t come born in this world knowing all of these things that are common knowledge to everyone else already in this world. You have to teach them!
What is lying?
Lying is the opposite of telling the truth. Lying is saying something happened in a way that it did not. A fact is truth it is something that actually happened while a lie is something that did not actually occur. When you are explaining this to a child it is crucial that know the difference between what is the truth and what is a lie.
Why is it bad?
As a person you must be able to be truthful with other people. Telling lies will only make other people not give you trust. No one with believe you if you always lie; when you finally are telling the truth how will anyone be able to tell. Kids need to have some understanding of to why they should not lie or really why they should not make a habit out of lying.
What are the consequences?
Consequences are going to be different from family to family. In our house consequences are necessary; it shows our boys that when you do something that is not right they will get a lesson in return of to why what they did was unacceptable. We use time outs in our house and depending on the type of thing they did a good swat on the butt will help them remember not to do it again or not to do it so soon. I as a parent know that they will do it again; I know they are not perfect. I never was as child and even now as an adult I am not. Time out is in a place that is not fun. No toys, its away from distractions, but at the same time somewhere where we can see them if they were to try and get up. It is important to have a consistent place for time out; that way the child knows where to go when it’s time for a time out. You don’t want to use their room for time out as that should be a place for them to be able to get away and sleep. Their room should be a relaxed area. Our kids typically stay in time out under the rule that time out doesn’t start until they have stopped talking and stopped throwing their fit. Then it’s usually about a minute per the age they are. In the case that either timeout isn’t working or they have done something really bad; the consequences go up to being grounded for a period of time.
What should you do instead of lying? What should you do if you have already lied?
Always tell the truth; its a great habit to get into because the truth cannot be altered. It is something that is set in stone, it actually happened. There is always going to be one truth but there will be all sorts of lies that can be told. Telling the truth might embarrass you, it may make you look uncool, and it may be get you in trouble; but it will always be true and un-altered. For some reason telling the truth is a difficult thing to do; even for most adults. Its is the simple thing to do. Lying comes with a whole list of bad. First its one little lie then it just explodes from there. Telling the truth will get it done and over with the lies will end with the truth.
After all is said and done no matter the lesson; let them know that you still love them!
Teaching children right from wrong is apart of parenting; it is a part of growing up. It sounds so simple to write out to say, but living through it is what makes it difficult. Sadly some parents opt out of this part the hard part they think well now I have to be a parent make my kids listen so they give up. The lessons that we teach our children need to be enforced; we need to follow through otherwise your gonna have a bratty child for the rest of their lives even when they are grown. Society will thank you as a person for doing your job as a parent some day, maybe more of a silent thank you. When you are up to bat with the bases loaded and your team is counting on you; what do you do? You step up to the plate with bat in hand then when the pitcher throws the ball, Do you swing half way? No! That would just be silly because there is no follow through. The follow through is what makes swinging a bat worth it even if you don’t hit that ball at least you tried! As parents we are not expected to raise our children to be perfect people. We are expected to do our very best that we can as we raise them. There are important lessons that need to be taught to our children. They are all over the place how difficult they are to teach but all necessary to be taught. We should strive to bring up our children to be good: to be truthful & trustworthy, to have good morals about them, and to be respectful to those around them especially when those around them choose not to be good! We must follow through in our roles as parents, that is our job. My husband & I are on this adventure in raising our boys that is long and at times it will be treacherous. We will not always want to follow through in our parenting because it will become difficult; but we will not just give in. I know that we will buckle down and bear through it thick & thin. When it comes down to it we might even need help along the way. One way or another we will make it through and we will do our very best along this adventure of ours!
Don’t give up on your kids, they need you just like you need them. The guidance you give them will shape them into adults one day. Give them a chance to be good & do good.
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